Reflection of Virginity (Renungan Tentang Virginitas)
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I wrote this as a material reflection for anyone who
read it, especially men. Before that, I want to tell
that me as the author was a male. So here I am
not being there on the part of anyone, because I rate everything
objectively.
I learned many things, one about how the behavior
someone on the various aspects of life.
Once I found a thread in the forum which contains about
disappointment of a man against his partner. In the thread
proficiency level in these, he talked about his life, where he will soon
getting married next year.
But three weeks earlier, telling his future wife
something she never expected. A bitter fact that the candidate
his wife was not a virgin anymore.
Hearing this, he felt very disappointed and cheated. And
during these three weeks, she will not answer the phone and sms
of the bride.
He never did something outside the acceptable limit
against future wife that he was awake and puja for three years. And
news was enough to give him a pang.
He also asked for suggestions from the forum and friends. One of the
good friend advised him to sever its links with
his future wife. And this made him more skeptical about the relationship.
This case may happen in the lives of many people and
perhaps many of those who are confused when faced with
this problem. Especially for them, men who never
doing things outside the acceptable limit of a
women. For those who are frequent, may still be able to receive state
This, because there may be a tendency of thought that it was
replies that they should receive.
Apart from existing ideas, we must know that
love is a form of sincerity.
In this case the bride's wrong, because it does not notify the
truth. But I'm sure he too is in a position that completely
difficult. And certainly there are many factors taken into consideration
not to tell.
From my own experience. I met many women who
was not a virgin anymore and make recognition of couples
them. And what do they get? A humiliation, rejection,
and a low view of their partner.
And if so, what often happens is a
exploiting opportunity. Parties of men who know that their partner
was not a virgin, even use the opportunity to perform
it is not fair.
Then what is her reaction? They were forced to or they are willing to
treated inappropriately. Some of them fear
angry if their partner refused treatment from a spouse is not fair.
Some of them feel grateful that anyone would accept
their existence. Others are angry and afraid of their partner
feel grateful for the partner to accept their circumstances. Case
This makes, a lot women fall into the same sin over and over
times.
But then what happens? Instead leaving their spouses
them with a variety of reasons and / or when you feel bored.
Feelings of love turned into a passion without or with only their
realize. Just to satisfy the desire for men.
I often hear a lot of men who complain and say
to me that they want to look for another woman, and it was my
know if they've got a beautiful girlfriend. And when I asked
why, they answered that they dating his girlfriend for
beautiful and sexy girlfriend or.
And in general, men want a woman who was good for
become his wife, and at the time they tend to prefer courtship
with a beautiful woman and / or sexy that can satisfy the desire
them. In other words, a woman who becomes a boyfriend they do not necessarily
will be their wives.
For all men who read this, I want to say
that women are creatures that should be guarded, cherished, and
loved the record and that there are many considerations, of course.
And love is not a problem of a virgin or not, but what about
heart and your feelings.
If you really loved a woman, then do not see
masalalunya. Why? Because we do not live in masalalu, but in
the present and the future. What is important is not
how she was in her past, but how he in the present and
in the future, and how he treats you.
All of us, whether male or female, would never do
wrong and could not have escaped from their mistakes. Therefore before
judge others, look within ourselves first and
think about what will happen when we are in position that person.
When we do wrong, we would expect and want to be understood
and be forgiven by others, and vice versa. Do not be selfish
and do not degrading a woman even if she had not
virgin.
All the people in general, male or female, easier to
remember the shortcomings and mistakes of others rather than considering
advantages and kebaikkannya. high self-regard and
demeaning others.
For the men, do not judge how big sacrifice
have you give to your partner, but assess how much
and how sincere love that you give to your partner.
And for the ladies, take care of yourself. Do not be easily seduced by
male. Even though it was not a virgin, does not mean should
you volunteered to be duped males.
Many of the women who thought that he was not a virgin,
so no problem to do with relationships outside marriage
or with her new boyfriend who she liked for reasons of love.
I often tell women that I know, that if we
well behaved, then we are going fishing is good. And if we
behave badly, then we would provoke bad. With
have sex outside of marriage before his time, will make
a woman is difficult to determine whether their partner relationships
to him based on lust or because his love was indeed
sincere.
I am not saying that all men are like that, only
most of them behave like that, so for
women should be more wise and selective in determining and
choosing a partner.
Most men always questioned about virginity
a woman and this seems to be a problem that really
seriously. While women do not mind how the status of men
these men, whether he was still a virgin or not.
As a man, let's think. Is that fair?
Before we judge and assess them. Women are not goods. Not
there are new or used terms.
For the women, you should know about the fundamental differences
feelings between men and women. A man, once he did not
like, so whatever you do and sacrifice, will not
change his feelings toward you. But another case with a
women, they can learn to love their partner, even though their
Initially they did not love.
Basically, the thing that distinguishes between men and women only
on their gender alone. But apparently it can change
whole of their lives due to various factors that exist. Difference
This also underlie differences in viewpoint that is often used as
gulf.
In fact in nature, man and woman were created for each other
complement. Like day and night, there is no better
or worse. All have their advantages and functions
respectively.
Couples who both are couples who can see the advantages and
disadvantages of each, and use the excess to
shortfalls partner. So they can be mutually
complement, not a judge who's better and worse.
For the boys, follow your conscience. Never eaten
words of others, because the person is not necessarily true and knowing
problem clearly. We can just hear people enter
others as a suggestion, but the decision still determined by our self
own.
Because you and your partner is you who live your love affairs
with your partner, not someone else.
Virginity is not a benchmark kebaikkan and heart of a woman.
For the women who read this, you should never judge
that the world is not fair. Because all of which are created are fair.
All who have had their respective roles. We as human is
that make a difference and injustice.
This is a reality which I pour into a post
vent based on my experience of many people including the brother-
my host sister. I'm not offending anyone, I just
expect men are more respectful of women and vice versa woman
do not be easily seduced by the flattery of men who sometimes
misleading. However, women also men should still appreciate
male.
I've been writing this I publish in a forum. And
received varied responses. There are pros and there are
kaskus kontra.Anda can search on the keyword "muse
about virginitas ". Indeed, virginitas own understanding nature
relative, because no one can define it
definitely, and also view everyone's perceptions about
virginitas vary. However, I want to remind that
virginity is not a yardstick that can be used with certainty.
And happiness is not in the can through the virginity, but from
our own minds.
When we think we are suffering, the suffering will continue
come. And when we're not thinking about it and not suffering
making problems, then life will become more valuable and
more beautiful to live.
Remember that we are all human beings were essentially normal with
all its drawbacks, but often we forget that we also have
and can make mistakes. Often we look down on people
other without looking at ourselves, as we never
mistakes. Let each of us and see intropeksi
into ourselves, before we judge others.
Author / Writer: Hong Kosan Djojo
email: ryu_ubm@yahoo.co.id
Also visit my official website at http://wuah.com and my college at http://www.ubm.ac.id
About the Author
My name is Hong Kosan Djojo or I know as Ryu Kiseki... You can see my official website at http://wuah.com/ or http://www.wuah.com/ Also, my college at http://www.ubm.ac.id/
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